When your ex is dating someone new
Getting back up on your feet (and TBH out of your bed) can be really hard after a heartbreak.
But no matter how many times you swear that you'll just be alone forever and ever, you know that just isn't true.
But then he quickly follows up with “…but I have a girlfriend.” I asked him if his girlfriend knew we were talking like this. Well, a few nights ago I ran into him at a bar and we were just talking for few minutes, and his girlfriend glared at me the entire time. At any rate, your question isn’t really about her or even her relationship with your ex-boyfriend; it’s about you and whether you can have a friendship with your ex.
Afterwards, she dragged him out into the parking lot and demanded it was time to leave. And the answer is: not with the current state of things.
Nothing wrong with stealing romantic ideas from all your life's partners. You know that if this relationship does end, there will always be someone out there who's better for you. You haven't met most of the people you'll know yet, and TBH that is so comforting.
Because while you’re concerned about showing respect to the relationship he has with his new girlfriend, you seem to be missing the complete and utter lack of respect he’s showing to you.
After a three-year relationship that was tumultuous enough to include at least one breakup, he’s going to not only move on to a new girlfriend less than two months after you end things, but continually rub your face in that fact (i.e. but I have a girlfriend…), while simultaneously making innuendos that challenge you to move on seamlessly. My question for you, then, is: why do you want to be friends with him? Is there any part of you that hopes for a reconciliation?
etc., and he has mentioned his new relationship many times.
He has even gone so far as to tell me that he dreams about me and can’t fall back asleep, that he wishes he could still protect me, and that he is sorry for everything he did to hurt me in our relationship. I want to be friends with this man as he has been a huge part of my life, but I want to respect their relationship. — Seeking an EXplanation have some idea of the continued — and, frankly, inappropriate — relationship between you two or else why would she be so quick to pull him away?